2 Corinthians 5:16 Consequently, from now on we estimate and regard no one from a [purely] human point of view [in terms of natural standards of value]. [No] even though we once did estimate Christ from a human viewpoint and as a man, yet now [we have such knowledge of Him that] we know Him no longer [in terms of the flesh].

Sometimes God hides you in a messy situation to preserve your destiny. Based on this,  people will begin to say things which is beyond their knowledge. Questions like who sinned will begin to arise? But I tell you most time it is to the glory of God. 

The day people stop talking about you, it means that you are no longer existing. As long as you are alive, people will talk. The reason is because they think, their opinion about you counts. Most time, people have hidden envy and jealousy for you, and the only way they express that is through side talk. 

When you make mistake in life, and this I assure you will, people will talk about your mistake, apologize and move on. The side mirror in your car is to help you see where you are coming from but can never show you where you are going. 

Your past mistakes are in your past, if you focus on it, your future may be affected. You can learn from your past, but you should stay focused on your future. Stop listening to the noisemakers, the reason you are feeling condemned is because you hold their words with high esteem. Nobody has the right to condemn you or write you off. 

The beautiful thing about God is, He has not given your future to anyone to determine. So don't be moved or bother about those who speak ill of you, pray for them and stay focused on your destiny. If you are wrong, be genuine with your apology, but don't nurse your shame. 

1 Corinthians 2:15 The person with the Spirit makes judgments about all things, but such a person is not subject to merely human judgments.